Wednesday, January 12, 2011
is it just a mood?
Thursday, January 6, 2011
anxious thoughts
My hope is this: God is greater. Jesus died for this. We were all depraved and sinful until Christ bore it all on the cross for us. Hallelujah! We have a redeemer who provides us victory over the darkness! I believe in the redeeming power of Christ in us -- in D.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
notes about the Shining Barrier to keep in mind
To be the watch upon the walls of the Shining Barrier, we early established what, later, we called the Navigators’ Council. It was in part a ‘truth session’ but, more significantly, it was an inquiry into the ‘state of the union’. Were we fully sharing? Was there any sign of creeping separateness? These Councils would occur fortnightly or monthly. In them we would pour out sherry and begin with a burst of music from some noble symphony, perhaps the singing of the ‘Fifth’, and then we would talk. Often there were decisions to make. Whatever the decision, it would be made upon the single basis of what we called the ‘Appeal to Love’.
The ‘Appeal to Love’ was an essential part of the very structure of the Shining Barrier. What it meant was simply this question: what will be best for our love? Should one of us change a pattern of behaviour that bothered the other, or should the other learn to accept? Well, which would be better for our love? Which way would be better, in any choice or decision, in the light of our single goal: to be in love as long as life might last? No argument could prevail against it. The Appeal to Love was like a trumpet call from the battlements of the Shining Barrier, causing us to lift our eyes from the immediate desires to what was truly important…
The passion, the sexual element, was there: and sexual harmony like sexual playfulness was an important dimension of our love. But it wasn’t itself the whole thing; and we knew that to make it the whole or even the most important element was to court disaster. Those who see love as only sex or mainly sex do not, quite simply, know what love is. They are the blind man assuming that the trunk of the elephant – or perhaps the phallus – is the whole creature. Sex is merely part of a greater thing. To be in love, as to see beauty, is a kind of adoring that turns the lover away from self. Just seeing Davy asleep, defenceless and trusting and innocent, could tear my heart, then in that first spring or a dozen years later. When we first fell in love in dead of winter, we said, ‘If we aren’t more in love in lilactime, we shall be finished.’ But we were more in love: for love must grow or die. Every year on our anniversary we said, ‘If we’re not more deeply in love next year, we shall have failed.’
all personal ponderings go here?
The way I see it: the only solution to this problem is to see the man I love on a daily or almost daily basis and talk to him about what I think and feel regularly!!! And on the subject of feelings -- we MUST share what we feel whether the feelings are good, bad or indifferent. We MUST trust each other enough to do that because feelings fuel us and they turn into actions. If we can't share our feelings, we don't have a healthy relationship.
Thursday, December 30, 2010
year's end
Thursday, September 2, 2010
six months
Tuesday, August 31, 2010
better
I didn't sleep very well last night. I had several periods of wakefulness and felt like I never really slept soundly. Ah well. It's going to be a long day.